Where is 2019 going?
I would say that I want it to slow down, but that's negativity talking. Why would I want that, if I'm living in and appreciating the moment? Why would I want that, if I'm excited about what I MANIFEST from the Universe? I wouldn't. So, rather than focusing on what time has passed, I can focus on the lessons that will prepare me for a better today and a promising tomorrow.
Let's talk about some of the lessons that I learned or RELEARNED in the month of May:
1. Your Budget Is Your Financial Game Plan! While I'm not in the locker room, I can't imagine that my homie, Lebron, comes into the game with no plan. Sure, things don't always go as planned. Accidents don't make appointments. I understand. HOWEVER, if you have financial goals without a financial PLAN, you're trying to get nowhere really fast. That is exactly what a budget is- a plan for your money. Rather than our enemy, we need to look at it as our accountability partner. Your homie...like my homie...Lebron.
2. Closed Mouths Don't Get Fed
Ask. The. Questions. It seems like common sense, right? I wish it was. This here is hard!! This here pushes against one of our biggest obstacles...THAT EGO, baby. Now, I learned this lesson from my struggles with school. Managing a deployment, 2 college courses, entrepreneurship, family concerns, friends, diet, fitness, and SLEEP(what is that?😩)...Lets just rephrase that and say mis-managing. This semester I rode the struggle bus. Did I have to though? Were there resources all around me that would have helped me through it? Heck yea there were tons! But...closed mouths don't what? Yea. A lesson for all of us: Stop trying to do it all alone. You're not alone.
3. Growth Comes from Discomfort
The phoenix rises from ashes. The diamond is made under heat and pressure. The baby is born from a mother's labor. The rainbow follows after the rain. The pearl is formed from irritating a clam. (Well, I'm not totally sure about that one. 😂) You get what I'm getting at. Don't be afraid of getting out of your comfort zone. Learn to challenge yourself and grow. Put yourself in the hot seat sometimes. You'll be better for it. I have a really great example of this, but you'll have to stay tuned for a later discussion.
4. Get a Mentor (or a couple lol)
What is up with this mindset of doing everything on our own? Why do we insist on learning the hard way every time? Shoot, maybe we can do it on our own and learn better as we go. However, what if you could learn from a mentor and do better from the start? I'm going to do a whole piece on mentorship soon. In the meantime, just know that a mentor doesn't have to be some corny "you're my role model" situation. Find people who are doing/being what you're interested in. ASK QUESTIONS. Read their work. Follow their life. You can get mentored from the comfort of your phone screen.
If you follow my Instagram page, you'll find this one to be a staple. That's not because I'm some relentless go-better with an iron heart. I struggle with this. For most of my life, I've been known as the one who sees things through and works hard. I'm not that girl 90% of the time or even 60% though. I have to remind myself and coach myself through my desire to quit and it doesn't always work. I quit on diets. I quit on school. I quit on writing. Shoot, I quit on this website so many times!
One of the best posts I've seen this month said it best, "Starting over is way harder than staying consistent". I've learned that the hard way, but let's do better going forward. Don't quit, okay.
With Love, Geli ❤